Growing up in a brown family, I personally feel I might learnt to deal with lots of insecurities and anxieties from a very younger age. whether it’s about siblings Comparison, or certain qualities.. okay right over here first no one is Perfect and it’s totally fine to be imperfect but I feel, we all get a little tremble inside when someone comes to us and point out how this particular person is better then you. Personally it took me a lot of time to Accept it and Embrace it, that this is how I’m built and If I’m not going to accept myself first no one will ever going to value my presence. the Key is To remind yourself your body with scars is beautiful ,your belly with some extra fat and folds are beautiful, your certain facial features are beautiful, how it matters who cannot like you with it?The only person who needs you forever is yourself prior, and then someone who accept us with our flaws and let us know instead how we are enough to them..
“In my experience I have seen this that when people bodyshame or skin shame someone at growing age of that person that can literally haunt them For long”
I was always a brown skinned Daughter in the family of Fair and Clear skinned siblings. and while my environment people like relatives, and particular friends used to tell me “You look Good but wish you were fair like your sister"…. and Sometimes I even used to get this “Bichaari Kaali Hai”…. (Oh poor she is Black Skinned) for many years it was affixed in my mind, wherever I used to be okay I’m black maybe I look ugly. which ruined many opportunities my way, but I literally feel i met some good people as well thoroughly ,who made me felt Confident who made me felt “norm“… About my skintone my body appearance, we can never really learn or accept things in a day it’s always a journey. and it was one for me, But atleast today j can say whenever some or Other, try to push thier judgments over my Complexion or Appearance. ||now I have learnt to deal with it Mentally||
These 3 things majorly helped me today i will be sharing it. it’s small but if you make it a routine,(it helps) personally being a Socially awkward person this helped me…
- 1) SELF TALK (be an expert for yourself)
- So over these past 2 years whenever I felt under-confident, i did this Self Talk..be really Honest and mindful to yourself. “I’m the best my skintone is beautiful, my body is beautiful I’m enough I’m worth.
• 2) Accept yourself as you are.
Happiness always comes within, when you learn the Subtle art of self vanity, loving yourself, and Accepting yourself,the way you are it can solve many problems already.
•3) Social Media is a Toxic trap..
This has to be my major learning. never compare yourself your body, your skin with someone you see on Social media. I majorly got affected at a part of my life because of, 《Instagram Unrealistic Body image Expectations…》 like “oh they are so shiny so glamorous, I’m not that good. and whatever we see there may not always be a reality it’s always different. and this is my learning that I will never be going to compare myself with anybody I see online..
It’s important we all realize our imperfections are beautiful, we are beautiful how we proceed this journey is more of important.
I can literally still say I’m learning a lot of things, yet because this is how life is i will get insecure everyday and that’s okay but what I’m never going to do again is blame myself for it I will accept and Cherish. ☆Every Body type is absolutely beautiful every skin tone is beautiful☆ and you are enough to make yourself loved. if we accept this We already won half way💓
This was it also I try to write whatever I feel the moment as that’s what medium platform is for, I feel until unless we don’t speak as our real self we cannot connect with anyone, so I promptly try to do raw writing most of the time💌
I would love to know from you people about Your Self Acceptance journey and Body positivity tips down here.🫂💓
